tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602356869086454613.post6986695428952609891..comments2023-10-28T07:15:44.164-05:00Comments on Bree's Tea... Won't you come sit and share a cup?: Doing the right thing is hard...breehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03028183508512140743noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602356869086454613.post-72008702440579223192010-01-23T19:45:20.481-06:002010-01-23T19:45:20.481-06:00Thanks everyone for the feedback. I will have to ...Thanks everyone for the feedback. I will have to go with Callie on this and stay where I can for as long as I can, and I do realize that I may not be able to for eternity, but will try hard to do so.<br /><br />Bbreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03028183508512140743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602356869086454613.post-65753794219866217352010-01-13T13:26:23.491-06:002010-01-13T13:26:23.491-06:00You also have 3) Wait till earl fifties when MIPIM...You also have 3) Wait till earl fifties when MIPIML finally lets you explore GD and finally slide towards what you want, first you have to live through the despair!<br /><br />Caroline xxCarolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133031265351841626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602356869086454613.post-40924538159477459772010-01-13T12:35:07.495-06:002010-01-13T12:35:07.495-06:00I am currently in the middle of this thought and d...I am currently in the middle of this thought and decision process.<br /><br />The issue that I have is the same as Calie, and I have discussed it with my wife...<br /><br />Perfect case for me (I think): Transition and keep my marrage intact.<br /><br />That is never going to happen...<br /><br />1) I transition and lose the GD and have a huge weight lifted, but lose the most important thing in my life<br />2) I don't transition, keep the GD (hopefully learn of a way to deal with it) an keep the most important thing in my life<br /><br />Both of these options fills me with dispear, though for me 2) is best case, and I hope that I can do it - though I have my doubts.<br /><br />Time will tell.<br /><br />But then again what's good for me may not be good for someone else...<br /><br />StaceStacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07907346657510908857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602356869086454613.post-45705970720623983302010-01-13T12:05:13.078-06:002010-01-13T12:05:13.078-06:00Bree,
At some point, all of us TGs have accessed ...Bree,<br /><br />At some point, all of us TGs have accessed where we are and what we need to survive and be happy in life. For some, there is no choice but to transition as the alternative is not living. For others, the drive is strong but not to the point that it must be done at all costs; that other factors, such as spouse, family, and career status need to be factored into the happiness equation.<br /><br />Thirty years ago, I strongly considered transitioning and spent the better part of a year dealing with my feelings. In the end, I decided for a number of reasons not to transition, as I believed this path would allow me the greatest chance of having a rewarding fulfilling life.<br /><br />I have no regrets over my decision back then, but that does mean it’s been easy (“doing the right thing is hard) and I have dealt with many of the issues you and Callie have raised in your blogs over the years….and continue to do so.<br /><br />Would I have made the same decision today, if I was twenty now? Probably not, the times are different now. Will I want to transition at some point in the future? Maybe, as other factors in the happiness equation change. So I guess you can say I am thirty years into my Pause, so far.<br /><br />Lisa xxxLisa in Raleighnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602356869086454613.post-62152707547604368292010-01-13T09:42:31.496-06:002010-01-13T09:42:31.496-06:00Bree, I have had two fully transitioned friends, a...Bree, I have had two fully transitioned friends, and well known bloggers, tell me in confidence that they would not have done it if they had the love and marriage that I have. These two do not know each other but their answers were identical. Both transitioned following divorces. Both are happy and successful in their new lives.<br /><br />There is absolutely no doubt in my mind that I should have been born female. I have known that since my high school years. I will say, without a doubt, that I would not hesitate a moment to proceed withtransition assuming I was single and financially able. But, I am not going to throw it all away in favor of living out my life as a woman at this point. I make it work and, in general, I have lived a very happy, satisfying, and successful life. I will never rule it out, however.<br /><br />This is your decision, however, and all of us can only give you the benefit of our own experiences. I will continue to be your friend and support you no matter what path you choose in life.<br /><br />Calie xxxCaliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00280127011882954777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602356869086454613.post-14704489014422540872010-01-13T09:04:15.142-06:002010-01-13T09:04:15.142-06:00Bree, how often are we ever 100% sure about anythi...Bree, how often are we ever 100% sure about anything? To not act, simply because you are not 100% certain, is to remain in a state of limbo. Sometimes in life, we simply have to to use our best instincts, and boldly proceed into the unknown, even if we only do it by taking baby steps. As always though, it's a personal decision, based on the unique experience the individual. <br /><br />Melissa XXMelissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04600684740584460891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602356869086454613.post-52852273583717925942010-01-13T06:08:44.687-06:002010-01-13T06:08:44.687-06:00To be free of family commitment and not have made ...To be free of family commitment and not have made some progress does seem to show a lack of real interest now that help is available for those prepared to fight for it.<br /><br />As someone who failed to be helped 40 years ago and had to survive in limbo for all that time with no real place in this world. That is not an option I would recommend as I look back on a non life, no career, no pension to look forward to. No honest and true identity even with those who are in my circle of friends and think they know me.<br /><br />To have the chance and not take it is madness.<br /><br />Caroline xxCarolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133031265351841626noreply@blogger.com