Can you beat it? I used to think that this was a death sentence or at least a prison sentence with no hope of parole. I do know that it is a very slippery slope to say the least, but yes it can be beaten.
At one time I was well on my way towards transition. My earliest memories were of a little boy who desire to be a little girl. My favorite story I shared with my counselor was when I was 8 I had save up $200 and some change for a sex change operation after watching an episode Donahue. And for someone who was raised below the poverty line in the 70s, 200 was a whole lot of money. My counselor and my psychiatrist both said I should transition as I would be a whole lot happier with life. I only had one hold up, and that was my family and my dedication to them. Having been raised in a broken home, I swore to myself that my 3 kids would not grow up without a father, as I felt I was cheated in a big way. This is all coming from a child whose theme song is “what about me.” So any way I could go on with convincing you who I am or was, but that’s not the subject matter. The subject matter is can it be beaten…the short answer is yes. Can you keep your sanity, again yes you can. How does one slay the dragon, well that’s not so easy…
First you have to understand who you are, and you have to be able to be honest with yourself and if you can’t well then continue to read for fun and mock me at the end. Next you need to have an understanding of how the brain works and how it can be changed. I know neuroscience isn’t an easy subject, but I am not asking you to get a degree in it, just read a little bit more than the average person. Shoot you may not have to even read, there are some good podcasts out there that will fill in for the reading. Along those lines you also need to be well read in human sexuality, which if you are here, then I would imagine that you are, and so check that one off your list. You will also need motivation to make the change, no motivation, then what’s the point? You also need to believe that you can change and you can beat this, I think this goes along with the whole motivation thingy, but I am writing this from the hip, and am not a professional…well I am a nurse, but not a psychiatric one. Lastly I believe you need a support system; here is the challenge as your support system needs to be outside of the gender community. Lastly you need good health – nutrition and exercise fill the bill here. As you can see, this is not a take the pill and be done, it is a complex process which I will dole out over the next several weeks. Also I am sure to add to this list, as I am absent minded and am sure I forgot something.
So as a recap, brain workings will include conditioning, addiction, and biochemical processes. Human sexuality, well we need you to read / skim some articles on autogynophelia. Real term or not, many of the ideas behind this vilified word are true, whether you want to believe them or not. The republican gender variants vilified this word a long time ago to discredit it for their own means, so we need to be a bit open-minded here. Motivation for the change, the best one I can give out is your relationship with your immediate family and world for that matter. Don’t have a relationship well then move on into transition; I would have just for the pleasure of it-yes that what it is a pleasure. Non-gender issued support system, which to me is a hard one to break free of. See you have these folks around you who understand something that no one else does; well they are also a catalyst for it…think about it. Who else tells you how good you look and that you can pass and do the impossible? Exactly! Health and nutrition, well for the body and mind to run effectively you need to exercise and you need to eat right, don’t have enough of one nutrient or another well then you are not in balance. If you’re not in balance well you can’t get through it.
So then, the last paragraph I wrote could be a great road map, to helping you get going to what you need to do. I can say I have been off hormones for a couple years now. I have not dressed up for over a year, and I am 90% happy with how things are. Do I think about it, yes I do. Does it consume me, it does not. If I were more disciplined do I think I could eradicate it, well I think I could get my happiness quotient up to 95 to 98, but that’s another story. I also believe that social media is the reason for the rise in gender disparity. I believe that what many of us think is real is not. You cannot be a close minded idiot and accomplish anything, at least anything worthwhile.
What say you?